I think that is why I fear the idea of my child not being an easy learner, because I have no idea what it is like. I would be so lost. And I just can't imagine. And not that I wouldn't love a kid who has problems in school, of course...but I just would tear my hair out FOR them, you know? My family is sharp and quick to learn, it just seems easy. I know that sounds arrogant and horrible. But it isn't anything *I* did. I always just say that I was blessed and I had good parents who spent lots of money to send me to private school to make sure my brain blossomed once they realized I had one. The public schools wanted to make me wait two more years to start kindergarten due to my age. My parents were like "No way." And had they not? I would have probably been a horrible and bored student my entire life. So really it was my parents and whatever I was born with. I'm not saying "I DID SO MUCH I AM AWESOME." Total opposite.
But I bet your oldest one is really good at things that are hard for others. I've noticed that many people who have problems learning in school are just being taught wrong by their teachers too. The system is so huge. If they don't learn in a mainstream way? They're just SOL. And that's so unfair.
And if he does end up being bipolar? At least you will have a better idea on how to deal with him and help him. That has to be a good thing, right? My family just has alcoholism, not any mental issues. Wait...we wouldn't know because they self medicate with alcohol. So no one in my family (not my immediate family, however) would have any idea how to help me if I had gone to them and said I thought I had some sort of mental issue. They would have just handed me a bottle of beer probably. Or my 3-Phd world renowned doctor aunt would have given you a few xanax and a bottle of wine to chase it with (seriously they are fucked up. Also why I don't want to procreate. They could so end up like them. Yikes. LOL)
Oooh. Bartering for kids. This parenthood thing seems like a better and better idea everyday! ;)
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I think that is why I fear the idea of my child not being an easy learner, because I have no idea what it is like. I would be so lost. And I just can't imagine. And not that I wouldn't love a kid who has problems in school, of course...but I just would tear my hair out FOR them, you know? My family is sharp and quick to learn, it just seems easy. I know that sounds arrogant and horrible. But it isn't anything *I* did. I always just say that I was blessed and I had good parents who spent lots of money to send me to private school to make sure my brain blossomed once they realized I had one. The public schools wanted to make me wait two more years to start kindergarten due to my age. My parents were like "No way." And had they not? I would have probably been a horrible and bored student my entire life. So really it was my parents and whatever I was born with. I'm not saying "I DID SO MUCH I AM AWESOME." Total opposite.
But I bet your oldest one is really good at things that are hard for others. I've noticed that many people who have problems learning in school are just being taught wrong by their teachers too. The system is so huge. If they don't learn in a mainstream way? They're just SOL. And that's so unfair.
And if he does end up being bipolar? At least you will have a better idea on how to deal with him and help him. That has to be a good thing, right? My family just has alcoholism, not any mental issues. Wait...we wouldn't know because they self medicate with alcohol. So no one in my family (not my immediate family, however) would have any idea how to help me if I had gone to them and said I thought I had some sort of mental issue. They would have just handed me a bottle of beer probably. Or my 3-Phd world renowned doctor aunt would have given you a few xanax and a bottle of wine to chase it with (seriously they are fucked up. Also why I don't want to procreate. They could so end up like them. Yikes. LOL)
Oooh. Bartering for kids. This parenthood thing seems like a better and better idea everyday! ;)