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I am going to be so damned grumpy at church in the morning, I can already feel it. My poor youth group. I did too much today, which is pretty dumb since I didn't actually DO much. A lot of sitting around, a lot of talking and laughing, a lot of food. But it was mostly all outside, there was the people aspect, and I had three sodas and not nearly enough water today. (But it was all worth it! It was a great day!)

Question for you guys. Do you think it's better to have a wide group of friends or a smaller circle of close friends? My sister-in-law thinks it's a bad thing that my nephew has a lot of "friends" but he's not close with any of them - like he has never had any friend come over to hang out or gone to hang out with a friend (other than his girlfriend-of-the-month). Personally, I think a big part of that is related to the conflict between him and his stepmom so he doesn't WANT anyone coming over, but even then I know he doesn't have any specific friends. He's friendly - it's a small town, most of the kids have known each other forever and are friendly. But none of our kids have groups of friends. Haley has her bff Desaray and her boyfriend Josh (but Desaray goes to a different school). Ronnie has Sebastian (who lives five hours away). The two of them also have Caleb, Matthew, and Megan, who they hang with sometimes. Davey has his bff Jordan, and they have Anthony and Courtlandt and BJ. And of course Ronnie, Davey, Joe, and Haley are close, they always have been, and their cousins Jayden and Alyssa are part of that too. And I think they're fine like that but since Kristina brought it up, I figured I would too. (Sidenote: I met my best friend Shannon when we were in the 7th Grade. We had other friends in our circle, but we spent weekends (and sometimes weeks) at each other's houses through middle and high school, and her family is STILL my family - they're my kids aunts and uncles and cousins and Gammy. The only other person I still talk to regularly from school is our friend Jay, who married Shannon's sister Pam. So.)

Uh. There was something else I was gonna put here but I don't remember it. Oh well. Hope all of you are having a good weekend! <3

Comments

[gelsey.livejournal.com]

I think on the whole a small group of close friends is the best. Granted all my close friends live far away, so I have very little support in this area outside my parents and a couple of people from work (both my parents age or so) who I occasionally go out with.

[swear-jar.livejournal.com]

I don't think there's anything wrong with having a wide group of people you're friendly with, but I think having some/any/even one close friend is pretty important-- but I'm totally bias, because I have a pretty small circle of very close friends and not even a very large amount of people I'm just friendly-friends with, either.

[ltlredhairdgirl.livejournal.com]

Personally, I prefer a small group of close friends, but I don't think there's anything wrong with a larger group of friends. I had a lot of friends in high school, but it seems like the older I got/am getting, the smaller my group of friends becomes. You probably already know this, but they can be a wonderful lifeline when things get tough.

I miss you! It seems like people are coming back to LJ, so maybe I will too.