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why_me_why_notUgh. I'm posting this here so I don't post it as a note on facebook, lol, even though I'm really tempted to. Just as a bit of background, my niece (who is 19) just had a baby (born on Friday) and I'm happy for her because babies are always a cause for celebration and I congratulated her and was very pointed in my congratulations to send my love to her and Parker but not to include the baby's father. Because the baby's father, who Chantell is now engaged to, is my ex-husband's best friend (who is 35 or 36, and was always around when Chantell was growing up, and was "Uncle Gary" when she was spending summers with me and my ex, and has teenage kids of his own), and I have major issues with that. Well, Stephanie, Gary's ex, who I am and always have been friends with, made a post on facebook the other day that basically said that she didn't give a fuck about her ex's gf having her baby and I liked the comment, because I can totally agree with not giving a fuck about your ex's new life. So obviously that started drama because my ex's family is full of drama and there was facebook stalking and rumors and blahblahblah. So, this is what I almost just posted on facebook:
Those of you who know me (the ones who actually know me; not the ones who think they know something about me because they knew me ten years ago) know that one of the things I hate and find laughable is drama, especially high-school level drama and even more especially the kind that hides in secret - he said / she said, messages and phone conversations that are misinterpreted, all that nonsense. So, since I unwittingly started some drama, I'm putting it out there in the open because I'm too old to play silly games, and because I don't have the time to be doing all this back and forth messaging bullshit.
I know yall saw my post on Saturday congratulating my niece Chantell on the birth of her baby. Yall also know my feelings on babies, that they're a blessing and a cause for celebration no matter what the circumstances. I am truly happy for Chantell and Parker, and I wish them nothing but happiness. And even though I haven't seen Chantell in the past 8 years or so, I still and always will love her and wish the best of everything for her. In my heart, she will always be my niece.
On that same day, my friend Stephanie, who I have been actual friends with for a long time and who I wouldn't magically stop considering to be a friend just because Chantell's baby's daddy is Stephanie's ex-husband, made a post on her FB page that said For the people who think i care that my ex's gf had her baby. You dont know the enormity of the f@ck i do not give. The only thing i care about is the three kids i have that he isnt doing shit for. Thank you and have a nice day.... And I totally "liked" that comment. We all have that person in our past that we don't want to hear about, and we all have so-called friends who insist on telling us about the details of that person's life. Because the world is one giant high school that thrives on drama.
So this morning I get this message from Chantell: "So, I just looked on Stephanie, Garys ex's page, and seen that u liked her comment about her not giving a fuck about me having my baby??? Really??? Its extremely funny to me that you can tell me that you love me and tell me how happy you are about me having my baby, and then I see that?! As far as Im concerned, you can kiss my ass just like she can... We are supposed to be family and that is what you do to me? Im glad to see you show your true colors Tabby and I cant wait to tell everyone exactly how you feel about me and my baby!!! Have a great life without me in it!!!"
To which I responded: "Chantell, me liking Steph's comment has nothing to do with you and Parker. It has to do with not giving a fuck about your ex's new life, which is a sentiment I can totally agree with. I am happy for you and wish you and Parker lots of love and happiness and great things. But honestly? If your Uncle Ron had/has another kid? I wouldn't give a fuck either. And it's not just ex's; there are people that are no longer part of your life for whatever reason that you just don't want to hear about. I have a couple former friends that I would feel the same way towards, and I know how irritating it can be when several different people insist on telling you something about someone you no longer want to hear about. So you can interpret it however you want to, but it's not directed at you."
Her response? "thats it tabby... try n make it sound good... lolz you kill me!"
I'm not defending myself, because I didn't do anything that I feel is wrong in any way, and I already explained myself. I'm just putting this out there because, LOLZ, DRAMA ON THE INTRAWEBZ. :P
Those of you who know me (the ones who actually know me; not the ones who think they know something about me because they knew me ten years ago) know that one of the things I hate and find laughable is drama, especially high-school level drama and even more especially the kind that hides in secret - he said / she said, messages and phone conversations that are misinterpreted, all that nonsense. So, since I unwittingly started some drama, I'm putting it out there in the open because I'm too old to play silly games, and because I don't have the time to be doing all this back and forth messaging bullshit.
I know yall saw my post on Saturday congratulating my niece Chantell on the birth of her baby. Yall also know my feelings on babies, that they're a blessing and a cause for celebration no matter what the circumstances. I am truly happy for Chantell and Parker, and I wish them nothing but happiness. And even though I haven't seen Chantell in the past 8 years or so, I still and always will love her and wish the best of everything for her. In my heart, she will always be my niece.
On that same day, my friend Stephanie, who I have been actual friends with for a long time and who I wouldn't magically stop considering to be a friend just because Chantell's baby's daddy is Stephanie's ex-husband, made a post on her FB page that said For the people who think i care that my ex's gf had her baby. You dont know the enormity of the f@ck i do not give. The only thing i care about is the three kids i have that he isnt doing shit for. Thank you and have a nice day.... And I totally "liked" that comment. We all have that person in our past that we don't want to hear about, and we all have so-called friends who insist on telling us about the details of that person's life. Because the world is one giant high school that thrives on drama.
So this morning I get this message from Chantell: "So, I just looked on Stephanie, Garys ex's page, and seen that u liked her comment about her not giving a fuck about me having my baby??? Really??? Its extremely funny to me that you can tell me that you love me and tell me how happy you are about me having my baby, and then I see that?! As far as Im concerned, you can kiss my ass just like she can... We are supposed to be family and that is what you do to me? Im glad to see you show your true colors Tabby and I cant wait to tell everyone exactly how you feel about me and my baby!!! Have a great life without me in it!!!"
To which I responded: "Chantell, me liking Steph's comment has nothing to do with you and Parker. It has to do with not giving a fuck about your ex's new life, which is a sentiment I can totally agree with. I am happy for you and wish you and Parker lots of love and happiness and great things. But honestly? If your Uncle Ron had/has another kid? I wouldn't give a fuck either. And it's not just ex's; there are people that are no longer part of your life for whatever reason that you just don't want to hear about. I have a couple former friends that I would feel the same way towards, and I know how irritating it can be when several different people insist on telling you something about someone you no longer want to hear about. So you can interpret it however you want to, but it's not directed at you."
Her response? "thats it tabby... try n make it sound good... lolz you kill me!"
I'm not defending myself, because I didn't do anything that I feel is wrong in any way, and I already explained myself. I'm just putting this out there because, LOLZ, DRAMA ON THE INTRAWEBZ. :P
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How's the headache today?
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Date: 2011-04-02 06:17 am (UTC)eh, it was better today, but not gone completely. Hopefully it won't be too bad tomorrow, because I know I'll have an adrenaline headache, especially after the race. I'm keeping my fingers crossed, b/c the race is kinda a big deal for me.
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Date: 2011-04-02 01:31 am (UTC)I doubt your response was even vaguely understandable by the person you responded to. But that's to be expected when one is trying to communicate with other/s who are not possessed of the same level of mental development. You know how it is.
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